Man Enough is honest, brave, and timely. This exploration of masculinity tackles body image, shame, insecurities, and a myriad of other topics that boys and men are traditionally discouraged from talking about. This book helps make space for understanding, empathy, honest conversation and the idea that you are enough. It is a must read.
From a very young age, we develop our own coping mechanisms. We learn to deal with the chaos to some degree. What happens when those strategies are no longer effective though?
Today I was pulled in so many directions that I could feel it wearing me down. The internal conflict to please everyone while maintaining self preservation was like a war inside. I tried to come back to the present but there were multiple people competing for my attention. I tried to practice focused breathing but my phone wouldn’t stop ringing. It was like doggy paddling in the deep end.
We’ve all learned how to suffer like it’s a badge of honor. Look how much I can take without cracking under pressure. And for what? So that we can appear more capable. It only wears on us and sets unreasonable expectations for others.
So today might have been really crappy but there was definitely a lesson learned. I cannot, nor should I be expected to do it all. There is nothing wrong with setting boundaries in order to protect your own peace. We must unlearn these destructive habits and start treating ourselves with compassion.
Fear is that monster on your back telling you that you’ve failed before you’ve even begun. Don’t believe those lies.
In an earlier post we posed the question, “what would happen if you believed in yourself?”
That is the enemy of fear. Confidence starves it. Faith vanquishes it.
We do not need to know what lie ahead. We do not even need to know how to tackle it at first. We must begin where we are and trust that the path will appear.
Setbacks are ok. Just keep pressing on. Know that you can and will accomplish your dreams.